As I grow older and more active, my dad is probably finding different ways to play with me and take care of me. Even if I can’t tell you exactly what I want and need yet, when you listen and try to figure out what I’m communicating, I feel loved and important. Fathers’ play is usually more spontaneous than a mothers, and through that play I’m likely to learn how to take appropriate risks and how to deal with emotions. When you are genuinely engaged with me, we’ll both feel more comfortable and confident. When you roll or kick a ball with me, help get me ready for school, take me on a walk or read with me, I learn and grow. Having you involved in my life makes me more likely to stay in school, have higher math and verbal competence, less likely to use aggression when in a conflict, and greater moral sensitivity. The way you play and interact with me doesn’t have to be (and isn’t going to be) exactly like mom/coparent does it. Dads are unique and we kids love spending time with you and sharing our daily routines with you.
