I may be saying, “I feel tension. Something is going on.” or “I’m trying to understand what’s going on and feel a little in control of my life.” You can help me by offering simple, clear words for what is happening: “We are getting Daddy ready to go on deployment.” Be ready with extra nurturing. Offer me a hug or read a book with me. I would like it if we could have some family time together. I may need your patience and some extra nurturing.